It's been a while since I've dared post on this thing. I guess I've not been true to the cause. Or chosen selectively, what I, the writer seeking approval, will divulge.
Momma kicked the boys right out. Said she'd had enough of their disrespectful, unhelping, wretched ways. Dh, ever the protective father, accompanied his two back to their infinitely stupid mother who rewarded them for their inexcusable behavior by getting them brand spankin' new cell phones. Her lack of parenting skills know no bounds.
To preserve sanity and marriage, dh and I have agreed that all parties must be held equally responsible. I apparently haven't had enough time to process the situation, as I am still harboring beacoup resentment towards the two antagonists. I am angered even further that after spending the extra 600 bucks to wash those boys right outta my hair, they couldn't be bothered to spend the last couple days with their Dad because he told them they wouldn't be allowed to watch TV all day, and would have to continue running in the morning. Ooh, hardship. Yet he perseveres as the father to two boys who clearly couldn't care less, poisoned by the thoughtless and selfish words of their manipulative mother.
So it seems, dear ones, that my life has been all drama and no comedy. Not exactly a time when I feel like reaching out and touching someone across the internets. Yet, I feel that a weak excuse. I'm writing my own "Behind the Music" and editing out all the ugly parts. I set out to document this young life for dh and myself when we are old and wrinkly (and still hopefully very much in love) and I am dishonest with even myself. Queen of denial, I am, I am. If I ignore it and don't talk about it and never do it again, it never happened.
I would be lying if I said that I weren't more relaxed now that the boys are gone. I am unable to control my anger at them - it's like a white hot light. I'm afraid that if I open my mouth, I'll say something horribly damaging, party tricks I have done many times before. Although, I did tell The Incredible Sulk he was a dick. Step-mother of the year award, right here.
I am surprised that dh finds enough in our relationship to stay with me. I am a tumultuous ride. He hates when I question him, although sometimes I have the complete inability to find redeeming qualities in myself and my treatment of him. And when I feel normal again, I hate that I questioned him about it. I think that is why I am reluctant to come home, it offers too much reflection. As long as I'm sitting here looking backward, I find that I slide that way. Not something that I care to relive.
A girl named Alexandra Robbins wrote a book about the quarter life crisis. I don't plan on living to be 120, but has anyone out there read it?
I plan on banging my head against the wall repeatedly later. Not to worry, vapid, self-involved TCWH will be back soon.
Step parenting is hard, especially when they are spoiled little ......
Mine was so terrible is mother didn't even want him.
And ironically, she was the one who made him that way.
I hope things get better for you. Coming from having steps on both sides, I know it's hard for both parties involved, esp. at those boys' ages. They would be shits to anyone who wasn't doting on them.
I haven't read the quarterlife crisis book, but I'm reading her other book on sororities, and if the former is anything like the latter. Pfft. At least in the sorority book, she claims she takes a very open view but it is rather a narrow one in my opinion.
aww, those kids sound really obnoxious in that unappreciative way that kids can. but you know, i'm sure it will get better for the two of you once that stress is out of the house. then you can focus on what you need to work on together, and not on them.
don't bang too hard, mkay?
I had to cut off my son's cell phone after his mom (my ex) promised to pay his bill - and then didn't. Sometimes the old adage, "You snooze, you lose" takes effect!
Oh, man. I'm really very sorry. Sounds like no fun at all. And swallowing anger or resentment really sucks.
Sometimes you just have to do what feels right in your heart and things will work out I know it's hard right now but they will smooth out *hugs*
1st timer here via Fish. Read 1/4life book and was disappointed. It certainly reaffirmed that the crisis is a real thing shared by many people at that age, but gave me no suggestions on what to do about it. so depends on what you're looking for when you read it I guess, but I found it not so helpful...