Yesterday, while I was at the Salon (SAAAA LONNNN), I was listening to a Mom speak about her first daughter's first marriage. Yes! I was eavesdropping! In my defense, there was only a mirror separating myself from this lady, and she was speaking loudly above the hair dryer. I couldn't NOT hear her if I tried.
About how the marriage didn't work out because the man broke her daughter's nose and walloped her in the face. Then she said this:
"But it's okay because they were real young. And I know my daughter. She can be a bitch."
The other girl there, one of her son's wives, I imagine (since she announced she only had 1 daughter), sat there nodding her agreement.
I almost had an exorcist head rotating moment. What? It's okay because she can be a real bitch?
She kept making excuses for the couple, saying that it was okay because they were so young and now they were friends.
TSS never laid a hand on me, but he came damn close. By the time I left, he had run out of furniture to break and wine bottles to throw. I don't like to think about what would have happened had I stayed, because I know I would have killed myself. There is no doubt in my mind. He never touched me, but everything else? WAS NOT OKAY. Under no circumstances.
I thought this Mom was off her rocker. To make excuses for the man who broke your daughter's nose is just sick. I don't care when it happened. She should have spent that hundred not in the salon, but in counseling.
What is it with these fucking people, anyway?
Blows the mind doesn't it? I just don't get it, thats horrible. I would never tell my daughter it was okay cause she was bitchy. No man should ever lay a hand on you at anytime. I have heard people use this crappy "excuse" before as well..
I walked a mile in those shoes in a past life and its NOT OKAY... geez lady.
i don't understand guys who beat their women either. i can understand wanting to....
but in the long run, even if the girl stays with you, she is worse off for the beating. mentally and physically. and that means the guy is worse off too.
Freaking crazy and ultimately, sad too. How can we still live in a world where people (esp. women) think it's ok for a woman to get the shit kicked out of her because she can be a bitch...WTF?
Most likely, the mom probably gets beat up all the time by her husband, and I'm willing to beat that the dad beat the daugther as well. The daugther then grew up and gravitated towards someone like her dad, thus continuing the cycle of abuse.
Wow...I can't imagine a mom saying that about her daughter, and excusing abuse. My mom always said if my Ex had touched me, she and my step-dad would've been on a plane in a heartbeat. But, I have to agree with the others in that sounds like this Mom is probably beat herself.
That's just sick. I'm glad my mom never said that to me. My ex was, at first, mostly furniture abusive but it DID get physical and I left. He tells people I beat him up regularily. I can't say I never laid a hand on him cuz I did beat a knife out of his hand when I found him slicing himself up with it and I had to push him out of my way more than once while he was beating everything around me and backing me into a corner - but I would never have hit him in anger like he hit me. Even if I AM a bitch no one deserves that.