THE LIST
1.) Much as I love Saipan and love to visit, I do not want to live there. Living in close proximity to two men who think you are the DEVIL, complete with horns, tail, and manipulative ways (And I will SOOO own up to the horns and tail. Manipulative? Me? Pssht. I'm a teacher, not a fucking magician) is not healthy for the psyche. Especially if the aforementioned men have mouths like sieves - only the juicy stuff slips through. Who said men don't gossip? LIAR! LIAR!
2.) I feel bad that dh had to see the ugly, needy side of me, brought to light by proximity to my ex-husband. I'm still not the big girl I thought I was. I have a hard time June Cleavering when I'm around people who knew me when I was crazy. When I'm in that mindset, I feel like there's more bad than good. Infinitely less good than crazy. I remember when I felt like that every day. It gives me the heebie jeebies how close to the edge I was.
3.) Walking on the beach and in the ocean was amazingly therapeutic. Coming here and going our separate ways, I think dh and I were losing sight of our similarities. He golfs, I blog. He cars, I blog. He gyms, I complain. And tell him that I hate him because he loses weight when he doesn't work out, I beer belly, as evidenced by last post. We were less friends and more married. Saipan was a reinforcer for me that we are still great friends. And still a great married couple. As I have learned here, every couple has their infractions. I think friendship is what pulls you through those betrayals.
4.) I needed to socialize with people who are not in "this" mindset. Who have children after 30. Who believe that it is okay to have a career and education first and be a mother when I am damn well ready and not because my eggs are old. Who believe that it is okay for the woman to make more money than the man. Okay, okay, so I choked a little bit over the 1700 dollar Louis Vuitton purse, and I will probably never OWN one of those, nor will I get eyelash extensions, but there's a whole world outside the box. I came from there, and I damn well plan to go back.
5.) Damn, I got all serious. Must be because I have parent conferences tomorrow and I'm trying to appear mature. Notice I said "appear mature" - not actually mature.
6.) I've been thinking (Wait! Wait! Before you run away screaming, just read) : If you could see your spouse/significant other/insert person here kiss ANY person of the same sex, who would it be? And why? (I had to add that. They rip up your teaching certificate if you don't ask that after EVERY question. )
don't judge me, but i briefly imagined her kissing you.
it's the tequila(s). that's why. bet you don't get that answer on your teaching certificate...
Wow can so relate to #4..... 30 next month and have done everything thing right (I guess it depends who you ask)...unless you ask most of my relatives.... "no baby..... is something the matter?! " Whatever! :P But hey good luck with conferences tomorrow finished mine about three weeks ago ..... oooo what a feeling....About number 6, someone kissing JJ? That's tough ... who would you pick for dh? I guess Brad Pitt because hhhheeelllooo... he is yummy and my man is yummy! Yes very lame answer but wonderful visual! :)
hmm......... i think if i watched him kiss another man i would be seriously scarred and it would ruin it for me, for real. but i guess if it came down to it, he could kiss one of hte guys from Blink 182 cause i think they wouldnt be all gentle about it, that would gross me out and i know that i wouldnt feel wierd about my husband being tenderly kissed by some other dude. the guys from blink 182 wouldnt tenderly kiss a man.
was that too much thought? lol
I object to #6, not on the grounds that I don't have an answer for it (I have 10 answers), but because then this game could be played in reverse, with my girl thinking about me committing such an act.
I do not like that. You see, now I am thinking about my girlfriend thinking about me kissing another dude.
Do you understand why sometimes my brain isn't healthy?
Can't answer #6 b/c I dont' have a one right now:(
I like what you said about you and your husband reconnecting as friends, for it truly is the foundation of any relationship.
I still cant believe you are old enough to have a husband, let alone an "ex". This is coming from one younger looking girl to another:)
BTW, I teach third grade.